the bandana – 4 ways

i just bought the trolls soundtrack today, and chloe, hudson, and i have been listening to it on repeat for HOURS and having an all out dance party. i feel like they kinda made this soundtrack for the parents. there are some really fun songs with a good beat, and they don’t sound too ‘kiddie’.  is that a word?  i even cried during ‘true colors’ like a total sap – you guys, the harmonies!  and talking about being your SELF!  and JT professing his love for me princess poppy!  and i was dancing with chloe.  music, it gets me every time.  anyone else??  i’m probably crazy.  anyway, it’s good.

sooooo, what are you thinkin’ about the bandana trend, yay or nay?  i’m on board, and it’s a pretty versatile little piece to have in your closet.   they’re inexpensive, and they do lots of tricks!  like so…..

tie a knot in the middle, and tie the points behind your neck.  it’s a casual necklace.img_1143

try it as a bracelet.  wrap it around a few times and tie in a knot on top or bottom of your wrist.  i had to use my teeth, but i got it done!  img_1150

this look is great if you have a bandana on the bigger side (this one is roughly 2ft x 2ft).  fold one corner to another, so you have a triangle, then tie the two points, throw it over a t-shirt, and you’ve got yourself an outfit.  you could pile on the bracelets or go super-minimal like i did here – both look great.  img_1140

and lastly, if you like the look but just want to dip your toe in the water, tie one onto your bag and call it a day.  img_1159

check out one more way i styled a bandana here.  how do you like to wear yours??

there are some really cute ones out there…

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a little marriage advice for the mamas (and papas) in the trenches

i am really no marriage expert, but i was texting with my cousin the other day (who just had her third baby in just over three years – bless you alicia!), and she asked how we keep our marriage in a good place.  it got me thinking…

i feel like anyone who has a newborn is ‘in the trenches’ – you are sleep deprived, trying to figure out a new family dynamic, and if you have other children, trying to help them adjust to life as a bigger family, and also sleep deprived.  did i mention sleep deprived??  it’s hard on the whole crew, and i feel like we have only recently emerged from those trenches.

now, i will be the first to tell you that our marriage is not perfect, but i truly believe that no one’s is.  it is a constant process of adapting (especially with small children) and bending and communication and compromise.  you’ll have to figure out what makes you and your spouse ‘tick’ and do it.  we’ve figured out that what helps us the most is having fun together (with or without kids)- typically an active kind of fun, but even just laughter is like medicine for us both.  it can be as simple as watching something funny together, going to a park with the kids (and acting like children ourselves), or something requiring a bit more effort like going to a trampoline park.  the other night we went with friends to a place here called up-down, which is a bar filled with arcade games from the 80s and 90s.  we had a blast.  it was just a few hours of kid-free fun, and we both felt renewed.  another favorite, when we don’t have a sitter, is to wear out the kids, put them to bed early, and order take-out sushi for a date night in.  it doesn’t have to be complicated or fancy or even out of your PJs every time, it’s just finding some time to be together and staying connected.

i’d love to know, what works for you??

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the aligning of the stars

on the way home from target this morning, both chloe and hudson fell asleep in the car, and i. successfully. transferred. BOTH. OF. THEM.  now if that isn’t the aligning of the stars, well, i don’t know what is.  so here i sit with my computer for a hot second sipping the last of my pumpkin spice latte.  yep, you heard that right.  my target still has a stash, but i’m not telling you which one i go to. ;)

so i thought i’d round up a few fun things i’m thinking about for spring.  even though it’s currently NOT warm, i’m dreaming about spring and thinking about thinner textiles, open-toed shoes, and copious amounts of sunshine.

—– i wrote all that a WEEK ago.  life happened – i got kinda sick, beckett had an early out day from school, the kids wanted to eat, blah, blah, blah.  just keeping it real here.  anyway, let’s talk spring.  here are a few things that are on my mind.—-

lace-up booties.  yes or no?  i give an emphatic YES.  they’ll go with jeans now and dresses as the weather warms up.


jeffrey campbell // jeffrey campbell (total dupe at target) // vince camuto //  vince camuto// another vince camuto (apparently this guy knows how to do a lace-up bootie)

how much is too much of a color?  i seriously can’t get enough blush and might just go overboard.

tee // lace-up tank // off-shoulder top // pullover // raglan tee // split neck blouse // lace cold shoulder

sugarfix for bauble bar at target – have you seen it yet?  some super cute stuff at a great price point.


beaded tassels // choker // ombre tassels // ear jackets // beaded hoop

what are you eyeing for spring??

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ok, full disclosure, hair isn’t really my forte.  i had short hair for a number of years, but long hair feels more like me now.  isn’t it fascinating how we change over the years, and feel comfortable with totally different things?  just me?   i’m a weird one, i know.  i basically keep long hair so i can pull it up into a topknot…i just feels easier to me.  and here’s a funny fact, ever since hudson was a teeny tiny baby, he would play with my hair while nursing or taking a bottle.  and to this day, if he has a pacifier or is drinking a bottle (yes, i’m keeping him a baby forever), he still plays with it.  it’s pretty sweet.  i’m not into a ton of products, but i do have a couple of favorite things that i use often.


first, i try to wash my hair as little as possible.  like once or twice a week.  there are some hat days for sure, but i’ve found my hair feels healthier and i seem to be able to hang onto hair better.  it honestly feels thicker now than it ever has.  one of the things that helps me get through a few of those borderline days is dry shampoo.  i have tried A LOT, and my very very favorite is this one from living proof.  it smells great (a lot don’t), and it works well too.  the downside of dry shampoo is the residue, especially for a brunette like moi.  i’ve tried the ‘colored’ dry shampoos, and i like those even less.  SO, i use it at night.  spray on your roots before you go to bed (rub it in a little, or not at all) – it will have a chance to work through overnight, and you wake up with fresher hair and basically no residue.  holla!  (i’ve heard really good things about this one too.  )

ok, every decade i buy a new brush.  that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but a brush isn’t something i feel the need, or think to replace, all that often.  the last time i was due, i picked up the lemon drop from dry bar, and i love it.  it goes through wet or dry hair easily, and chloe screams at me less when i use it on her.  why must brushing a child’s hair be equivalent to torture??

now to styling.  i love love love my hair when it’s curled.  honestly, it doesn’t happen that often, so when i do it, i want it to last a few days.  my curling iron of choice is this one (the 1.5 inch), and i turn it to the highest temperature.  probably not great for my hair, but i find the curl holds better.  after it’s curled up, i spray with hair spray (not too picky on that), and finish with this texture spray.  it smells heavenly, and the fragrance lasts most of the day.  my stylist introduced me to it, and i thank her (hey lindsay!).  as for making those curls last, it’s another nighttime trick!  (also a tip from my hair stylist, she’s basically a genius)  BRAID YOUR HAIR.  it doesn’t have to be fancy or straight, just throw it in a loose braid, and it will help keep the curl to the next day.  you might have to touch up a few pieces, or sometimes i like to just use some wave spray to give it some texture.



so there ya go, a dummies guide to hair. ;)

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chloe, the sunshine girl

if you follow me on instagram, you KNOW today was chloe’s 4th birthday.  i went a little IG crazy, but i just had to capture her at this age.  she is fun and challenging, imaginative and sweet, and just plain awesome.  the light was just right in our breakfast nook this afternoon, so i took full advantage to mark her special day.

she wasn’t a fan of the idea at first….img_0940

but warmed up to it with a bribe. ;)img_0945

can we talk about these curls!?!img_0938

i feel like i can see her as a teenager here somehow…  img_0958

THIS is chloe.  img_0971


happy day, sweet girl.




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work it: the canadian tuxedo, part 1

well, there went another week.  i am still trying to figure out this blogging while mothering three small children business.  when i started this old thing, beckett was a ba-by, and he took reeeeeallly long naps, which gave me a nice chunk of time each day.  there is no longer a dull moment around here, and poor hudson had a sick few days, so i spent most of last week with a fussy baby on my hip.  i digress, but that’s where i’ve been.

ok, this may be the easiest outfit known to man.  it’s so ridiculously simple, but that same fact allows you to tweak it so many different ways.  sporty, dressy, edgy, the list goes on.  whatever feels good to you, do it.  i know you have a pair of jeans (or 7), and i’m betting you have a chambray shirt.  put the two together, add accessories, and that’s that.  the trick is to make sure the washes are a little different so there’s some contrast, otherwise i think it becomes a bit too much of a good thing.

look 1 i’m calling hipster chic.  my friend shared that term with me last week, and i’ve been trying to use it as much as possible.  i think it’s hilarious and i really just love it.




and here we have the sporty vibe.  i was having a dance party by the time i shot this one.  ;)  i am super-loving the destroyed denim right now.  it makes even the frilliest top seem a little edgy and undone.


chambray shirt: you’re gonna have this one forever, under $30, under $20,

jeans: mine (high-waisted), high-waisted similar, mine (destroyed, on sale!), destroyed

jewelry: spike bracelet, bangle, another fun one

scarf: similar, similar, similar

sunnies: mine (on sale for less than $25!), see my under $100 sunglasses round up here

shoes: booties, my sneakers, another fun pair

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under $100 sunnies round-up

funny that i would talk about sunglasses this week, when i have barely worn mine.  it’s been cloudy and gray for what seems like days on end, and i am sooooo ready for that sun to peek out.  i think tomorrow is our day!  finally!

as my dear husband would tell you, i have a little addiction. to sunglasses.  it’s harmless really, except that i have little piles of them everywhere.  i feel like they can totally change your look for not a ton of money, and it’s another fun way to show some personality.  and, when i go light on the make-up – which is basically every day, they cover a multitude of sins – like dark eyes from toddlers that are up all night.  but that’s a whole different topic.  of course sunnies are fun in the summertime, but i rarely go a day without them, and for me they’re just as important in winter – especially on a snow day.  hello bright white world!  i rounded up a few brands that are a little off the beaten path and have some great looking frames.  i own a few from quay and one from le specs and have loved them – a lot.  everything linked up is under $100!

LE SPECS (all pictured below)-  chunky cat-eye (bold, more subtle), black aviators, tortoiseshell w/ mirrored lenses, black square, blush transparent

DIFF – each of these come in several different frame and lens colors (all pictured below) – cat-eye, round, aviator

QUAY (all pictured below) – clear w/ rose lenses, cat-eye aviators, pink w/ silver lenses, round tortoiseshell, white marble w/ silver lenses, gray w/ blue lenses (same shape as my light gray with pink lenses)

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