i saw a quote the other day – ‘motherhood has a very humanizing effect. everything gets reduced to the essentials.’ meryl streep said it, and it hit so close to home for me, particularly right now.
having a third child has been amazing and has also turned our life upside-down. now, all moments are accounted for. there is hardly ever a time that someone isn’t needing something – snacks, shoes tied, where’s this toy, diaper change, snacks, play with me, another diaper change and more snacks. so, as i reflect on this past year of being a family of 5, i have felt overwhelmed for the majority of it. like, drowning. super drowning. so much of what happens on a daily basis is out of my control, and i am trying to react as the day unfolds – moods of kids, how well they sleep at night or nap time, etc. so i think i was craving an outlet where i could have some control.
that brings me back to the point. reducing to the essentials – streamlining. i have been doing my best to pare down in every way. house tchotchkes, clothing, books, toys (some i rotate in and out), kitchen items, you name it. i am FAR from done, but i have made a lot of progress. now this doesn’t mean i don’t buy things. i do, but i try to be A LOT more thoughtful about what comes into this house. because stuff for 5 people, well, there’s a lot.
one way i’ve tried to be more conscientious is with clothing. i started reading the blog unfancy a while back and it really resonated with me. have you heard of a capsule wardrobe?? it’s narrowing your wardrobe down to things that flatter and fit and all work together each season. i think it’s fascinating. she has written a lot about it, and if you’re interested, i suggest you check her out. weirdly, she was the photographer at the wedding of a friend of mine – before she started her blog, i think – and is so sweet in person. it comes through in her writing, and ya just feel like you’re her bud. …i digress…. so i’ve tried to employ some of these capsule ideas with chloe’s closet. here are a few tips that have helped me.
- pick a color palette, and stick to it. i chose raspberry, navy, black and white as her staples. pretty much everything in her closet is one of these colors right now.
- think hard about what your child wears happily. this is all in an effort to make getting dressed EASIER. chloe wants to wear a dress pretty much 100% of the time, so that’s really all i purchased for her this fall. she can wear them with bare legs in early-fall and throw on some leggings or tights as the weather cools down. she does have two pairs of jeans, but wears them probably once a month.
- think about pieces that will play well together. i bought chloe a few tops that we can layer under short-sleeve or sleeveless dresses, and she has a few tops and sweaters that we can layer over. since everything is in the same color palette, it all can swap in and out, and even when she picks her clothes, it looks acceptable…for the most part. ;)
- when you’re shopping, remember what you have already. i used to buy things just because they were cute. then i’d come home and feel like she had nothing to wear since none of it worked together (i used to do this for myself too!). sound familiar? now, i know chloe has plenty of dresses, so the only things she would need at this point would be layering pieces – a shirt with a cute collar , a vest, or possibly a skirt to go with some tops.
the has helped both of us. i know exactly what she needs and doesn’t, and she has gotten more freedom to dress herself. win! so, tell me – have you experimented with a capsule wardrobe??